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January 18, 2023
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Listen, this isn’t my first rodeo (or my first postpartum body).
I have a baby and a toddler.
You think I’d have anticipated all of these changes, given I’ve already done it once before, but O M G — how is it that these weird things happen and no one talks about them?!
We all know that pregnancy is a journey. And that’s putting it lightly. After nine seemingly long months, new mamas, experienced mamas, even seasoned mamas, may feel like they’re living in a brand new body that they don’t quite recognize, or know what to do with. First of all, THIS IS TOTALLY NORMAL! You are living in a brand new body – that created, nourished, and birthed a brand new being into this world.
A combination of labor and delivery exhaustion, new mama brain, and just an overall lack of sleep may make you wonder if what you’re experiencing is normal. And then, the reality is, before you’ve even had a chance to Google whether it’s normal or not, the baby will need to be fed, or changed, you’ll have to pee, or something else will happen and you’ll forget all about your Google question.
That’s where I’m hoping this post will come in handy :). Today I’m telling you all about 10 weird things—that no one talks about—that you might not expect related to your postpartum body that are actually totally normal.
A new mom’s body and hormones can take a while to adjust and regulate back to our pre-pregnancy normal, so it’s likely that you’ll experience shifts and changes for several weeks and months following delivery. I know it can feel like a lot of work at times, but be gentle with yourself. Appreciate and honor each amazing moment with your new bundle of joy, and remember how quickly these initial precious moments will pass.
When you were pregnant, you may have noticed that your hair looked fantastic. It was full, shiny, and more luscious than usual. Your hormones are to thank for that! The increase of estrogen while pregnant causes you to lose less hairs than normal, as estrogen drives your hair to have a longer growth cycle than normal. This contributes to fuller, more voluminous hair!
And then you give birth, your hair’s growth cycle goes back to its previous pattern, and it feels like more hair is falling out.
For most women, this process of normalizing takes around three-to-six months before your hair returns to its normal growth cycle. However, if your estrogen levels are especially low, (potentially from breastfeeding), it may take a bit longer.
So, while it seems like you’re losing a lot more hair post-birth, rest assured that things will normalize! I promise you won’t lose it all ;).
For most women, age alone contributes to her feet getting flatter and larger; however, this normal bodily process is typically accentuated during pregnancy.
When you’re pregnant, your body is retaining about 50% more blood and water than usual to help support both you and your growing baby. But once you’ve delivered your baby, that fluid needs to go somewhere, and much of it will flow directly to your feet, resulting in your feet growing half a shoe size or more. And, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but rarely do your feet shrink back to their pre-pregnancy size.
Consider this your excuse to buy those new shoes you’ve been talking about for months ;).
This shouldn’t come as a huge surprise, but you’re going to experience a dramatic shift in energy levels post-birth. Some women feel much more energetic, while others feel more sluggish than they did in their first trimester. Either way, what you’re feeling is totally normal!
For the women that tend to feel more energy, this increase can be attributed to the fact that a woman’s aerobic capacity can actually increase by 20% in the first six-weeks postpartum. This means that some postpartum women feel like they can keep moving for hours without getting tired, which is especially helpful in those early weeks! Nature is so smart ;).
However, a large segment of women tend to feel more sluggish in the postpartum period, due to the extreme toll that delivery can take on your body, alongside the new task of caring for a newborn. Especially if you’re a new mama or if you have other young children at home to care for, the postpartum time can be really intense. If this is you, aim to manage your energy as best you can by prioritizing SLEEP. The laundry and house cleaning can wait, if it means you’re able to take an hour nap when your baby is sleeping. Sleep is precious in these first few months, and should be priority number one above all else! Also be willing to ask for help. You don’t have to be a superwoman and think you need to do it all yourself.
While your breasts were likely growing throughout your pregnancy, you will notice a dramatic shift in the two-to-three days following giving birth—and they will likely grow another one-to-two cup sizes as they become engorged with milk.
Your breasts will potentially start to feel sore, swollen, and flushed. You will also likely begin to experience milk leakage for several weeks following your pregnancy, even if you’ve decided that breastfeeding is not right for you.
The size of your breasts will often go back down to what you were used to pre-pregnancy (or even smaller sometimes), assuming that you go back to your pre-pregnancy weight – which, remember, takes TIME.
While a baby pushing on your bladder in utero typically makes you feel like you need to go to the bathroom more frequently during pregnancy, the opposite can be true once you baby is born. Additionally, the large amount of pressure on a woman’s urethra during delivery can make going to the bathroom more difficult post-birth.
However, on the opposite side of the spectrum, a pregnant woman’s pelvic floor muscles have largely weakened throughout her pregnancy (unless you’ve been actively strengthening your pelvic floor muscles!). Weak pelvic floor muscles can lead to urinary incontinence and/or leakage because your body is no longer trained to stay “tight” in your lower half.
No matter what, it’s really important in the postpartum period to focus specifically on strengthening your pelvic floor muscles, especially if you didn’t do so during pregnancy. Also, be on the lookout for a potential urinary tract infection (UTI), which many women notice after birth, and can cause a burning sensation when you’re going to the bathroom.
Thanks to the extra hormones that flow through our bodies during pregnancy, our skin can have a myriad of reactions. Some women experience heavy acne, while others may have the “pregnancy glow” with a pinkish tone appearing on our skin, especially around the eyes.
Right after we give birth, our skin can go through a massive adjustment period. If you experienced acne or other skin irritations during pregnancy, typically this will start to clear up quickly and go back to normal.
Those women that experienced the pregnancy glow – thanks to estrogen creating more collagen and elastin in the body – will also experience their skin going back to normal … which can look like dry, lackluster skin.
Due to the massive drop in estrogen that occurs when a woman gives birth, many women notice that their skin starts to look and feel much more dry than it may have been when they were pregnant. This can appear as a red rash around their mouth and chin.
To combat dry skin, be sure to stock up on clean, organic face serums and moisturizers to help your skin during this transition period.
Unfortunately, many pregnant women tend to have poor posture, especially in their third trimester, which can cause uncomfortable back pain both during and following pregnancy.
On top of that, our core muscles are often significantly weakened post-pregnancy, which leaves our back muscles to do most of the work in carrying our body weight (and the extra weight of your new little one).
Just like your pelvic floor muscles, it’s important to focus on re-strengthening your core muscles post-pregnancy. But be careful what kind of exercises you’re doing—if your back pain is hindering your day-to-day activities or continues after several weeks, you may want to consider acupuncture or massage therapy to decrease the ongoing pain.
While it’s not fun to talk about, constipation is quite often a part of the pregnancy journey for many women. Pregnancy hormones slow down the gastrointestinal system, as do many pain medications given to new mothers during birth. On top of that, an episiotomy or hemorrhoids that can develop during delivery may make bowel movements painful. Combine all of these together and going to the bathroom can be no fun at all.
If constipation is something that you are experiencing following birth, it’s best to start using magnesium ASAP. Magnesium helps to naturally draw water into the colon, which can make bowel movements easier to pass.
Eating plenty of fiber-rich whole foods like sweet potatoes, winter squash, fruit, chia and flax seeds, and whole non-gluten grains (like quinoa, buckwheat, or rice).
And, be sure to keep your water intake high. Aim for at least half your body weight in ounces of clean, filtered water per day.
Ohhhhh the night sweats. As I mentioned earlier, your body tends to take on a lot more water and blood than normal throughout pregnancy. This means your body will need to flush out this excess fluid following birth, which it typically tries to do fairly quickly.
Unfortunately, this can tend to take the form of excessive sweating in the days following birth. If this is something you’re experiencing, it tends to stop within a few weeks as your body begins to normalize, but I’d suggest keeping a fan nearby or leaving your bedroom windows open to help you get a good night’s sleep.
And, lesson learned, there’s no shame in sleeping on a towel. It’s easier to swap out a sweaty towel than to change the sheets ;).
Whether you work out regularly throughout your pregnancy or not, your body will likely feel weaker than it did prior to getting pregnant. During pregnancy a woman’s body creates more of the hormone relaxin to help relax the intrauterine ligaments and give baby a bit more space to live while in your growing belly. However, post-pregnancy often these ligaments are still in their relaxed form, which can result in weaker joints following pregnancy.
If your postnatal body is feeling weak, and your doctor has given you the go-ahead, start focusing on gently and slowly incorporating low impact strength training to improve overall body strength and stability. This will also go a long way in protecting your structure as your baby grows heavier and you’re still carrying them around!
Whaddya think? Did any of those stand out as unexpected?
And for those experienced mamas out there – did I miss anything?
Here are some more blog posts that you may find helpful as a new mama:
Self Care with a Newborn at Home
Exercise Tips for Nursing Mothers
Cultivate, Preserve, and Protect your Baby’s Microbiome
Mama and Baby Blog Series: Recovery From Birth
Mama and Baby Blog Series: Postpartum Depression
Mama and Baby Blog Series: Breastfeeding
Mama and Baby Blog Series: Common Issues in the First Year
Mama and Baby Blog Series: First Foods
If you’re looking for more support postpartum, please reach out! I offer 1:1 consultations so we can dig into all things hormone and postpartum related. Find a time that works, and let’s connect!
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